Trying To Be Nice ...

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Have you ever tried to be nice, especially to strangers?

For instance you are driving on a busy road and ahead of you there are cars lining up slowly moving ahead. Then there comes a car in front of you from the other side trying to cross over you to enter the road beside you. Would you stop and give way eventhough it is your right of way?

Would you offer your food or drinks to a stranger sitting next to you in a train? Or simply would you give a smile to people who look at you while walking & passing you in the street?

Well even if you wold, how many do you think are following you?

The fact is - nowadays it is so hard to be nice without a reason. Sometimes your gesture to be nice would be interpreted wrongly. It may also create suspicion in the mind of others.

Well definitely giving a smile to a stranger in the street will lead to nowhere. In fact it would give a boost in your energy and sometimes even your confidence. This is so when your smile is returned in kind. The feeling is always there when this happens.

So in a difficult time like I am having right now, being nice to others without a reason to do so really boosts my confidence and morale. I find that it creates the same energy to others as well. Try it once a while and you will notice a difference.

So, before entering the bus in your journey just grab a couple of small packets of peanuts and after you are seated and before having it just pass one packet to the person next to you. Yeah, do it for no reason and please don't expect anything in return. And if you ever be the receipient of this nice gesture from others, take it kindly but if you feel it is not quite right to accept this kindness, reject it politely!

I believe we all need to create this culture especially at time like this. Hey, I am just trying to be nice.

Why am I saying this? There's a reason ...

Recently I happened to have a super early breakfast with the wife at the canteen of a public place (actually in a court house). Just happenned that not many people were around in the canteen that day. And we both felt really good that morning for being able to go out early from our house. It's good to be early you know. As they say - early birds get the worms.

As we were having our meal we saw somebody we know just walked into the canteen to have her breakfast too. She wasn't alone but with 2 other friends. After exchanging pleasantries with us, she and her friends proceeded to order their food and then sat at a different table from us.

Since we started early so we finished early. Then my wife thought why not just be nice and pay for their food as well. Anyway, it's not always that we do get to go out early from home and have our breakfast like that day. And we it's been a very long time since we treat somebody.

Well, my wife not making it obvious went on to the counter and placed a $50 note to cover both our food and their food. She told the food operator to include them in our bill in other words we would pay for them. It was done quietly and subtlely as it wasn't such a big deal to both of us.

After that my wife returned to our table and waited for me to finish my meal. (Obviously I was still enjoying my 'fat rice' which is 'nasi lemak' or rice cooked with coconut milk.)

Then as we moved out from the canteen and my wife went to the counter to pick up her change, she was told that only the lady that we knew accepted our treat but the other two declined to be paid. One of them had said to the canteen operator that she did not know us therefore she couldn't accept our treat and the other simply said she can pay on her own.

Well, like I said we were just trying to be nice without any intention. Hey, we didn't even know who they were but we kind of knew they worked there. And it's okay that they refused our treat. No harm done. So, since it wasn't a big deal we just moved along quietly.

So the point is ... I do wonder, were we trying to be too nice maybe? Was it completely unnecessary? Coz I was thinking that the 1st thing I would do when I strike my 1st million (hehehe.. still keeping the ambition, Nicole) is that I will walk in a packed restaurant and have my meal and then when I pay, I would pay for everyone! If you ask me why, I would say I am just trying to be nice.

I am wondering how many people would allow me to be nice?

Note to self and others: Make sure you look at the circumstances before you try to do so, that is, try to be nice. If you are a lawyer and about to appear before a judge in his court for God's sake don't buy him breakfast on that day especially after you win your case. That would be being too nice and usually when you do that it would mean something else.

Ty not to be like this poor fellow below who tried to be - too nice: -

.. One day Bob came home from work with a black & blue on both sides of his eyes. Obviously he had been punched in the face. Twice. On both sides of his face.

His housemate Jim was shocked to see Bob in that condition and asked him - "What the hell happened to you, mate??!! Were you robbed or mugged or something??", asked Jim frantically.

Bob then looked down and with sadness he said "No, I wasn't. I got it in the bus while coming back home and it wasn't a bad guy who did it. It was a lady. A fat Lady"

Jim who was confused asked Bob, "What??! Why would a fat lady punched you in the face? What did you do to her?"

Bob then reluctantly told the story to Jim.

According to Bob he was seated at the back seat in the bus on his way home. The bus was packed with people and in front of him there was this big fat lady who got pushed to the back row as others in front of her trying to get some space.

As she was standing in front of Bob facing the other way, Bob noticed that her skirt at the back got stuck between her ass. It looked so weird and funny. Bob then noticed there were a few people seated in his row trying to contain their laughter at the fat lady. Maybe she didn't notice it, maybe she got it while sitting down, poor lady, Bob thought.

Apparently the fat lady noticed that there were people giggling and laughing at something and she started to realise that they were laughing at her. Puzzled and curious the fat lady tried to move forward to escape the laughter.

Bob couldn't take it anymore and without thinking, he grabbed hold of the lady's skirt and pulled it out from her big ass. The lady was shocked and she wasn't pleased. In an instant she turned around and punched Bob in the eye. That was how Bob got the black eye.

After telling the story Jim who was still confused asked Bob, "Well then, how did you get the other black eye??"

Bob turned away and said, "Well, I thought she didn't like it... so, what I did was - I pushed back her skirt in between her ass"

SAY CHEESE!

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